... times per week the average married American couple is engaging in sexual intercourse. Hmmmmm.... I guess as a couples therapist I see it being more like one and a half times per century! Lack of physical intimacy is one of the signs of a marriage in peril. Lack of physical intimacy almost always is a result of lack of emotional intimacy. Rebalance the emotional intimacy -- everyone is a happy camper.
Emotional intimacy is really quite simple to establish. Pretend like you care. You might not even have to really care, although it helps significantly if you do. Things to do to bolster intimacy:
1) Use statements when listening like ... "oh I agree!" "that must have made you (insert emotion)" Agree, support, validate.... you don't always need to solve or critique.
2) Make time each day to talk to each other, even if it is for five minutes by phone. In this time, just connect. Ask about the other person's work/life.
3) Touch when talking. Connect physically as well as emotionally. Remember touch does not equal grope. Groping comes later!
I'm not like the average therapist who says.... "go home and spend half an hour talking per day." I very often give the homework assignment... "go home and make love at least once this week." Often times, that is really difficult for my clients -- the anger, hurt, distancing is so great that it is difficult to broach that vulnerability of making onesself physically available. I also prescribe having fun on a regular basis. Fun can mean sex; but it can also mean doing things together. We forget to have fun as couples.
Have fun as a couple soon. Post what you've done that was fun. It's always great to see other people's ideas!